12 February 2012

Love Byte #9 - Love is a dose of reality !

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Consciously or unconsciously we all bring a wide range of expectations into our relationships everyday , these expectations maybe about the way things should be or how people should behave and often without any realization we thrust these unspoken , half hidden expectations presuming that our loved ones would somehow know and fulfill them ..thru ESP perhaps or mind reading ?

So ok , I'll admit , I'd probably like to give my spouse a tremendous amount of grief too for not knowing what I want , when most of the times he does ,  but that's the case  - not because he's read my mind - but because living with someone gives you the advantage of knowing a person and the more you know someone , the more are you able to anticipate his or her needs .. my spouse definitely did not know I want my coffee more than him in the mornings but over time he does .. 
 ..so the thumb rule here is to verbalise expectations .. 
it takes way less time and is far less agonising than the misery you're ready to put each other through !

But hang on , as important as it is to verbalize , its even more critical to ensure the expectations are realistic , not based on what you see around you or on other people's relationship or even what you see on television ..because its unfair to compare or be compared , because what you share is unique , and therefore deserves a bit of credit ..

The best part is once you communicate , discuss and set your expectations out in the open , you're able to weed out what is unreasonable or can't be done and put in equal effort to do what you can and do it better because you're now part of the same team , working with the same motive , to make the relationship great and when you're part of the same team , you've already won !!

11 February 2012

08 February 2012

Love Byte #7 - To love is to endure ...

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Savage Chickens - Love and Tolerance
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True for every relationship , but especially marriage when it comes to this particular virtue - the virtue of tolerance .. because once you're married the number of times one requires to be patient and tolerant is ironically sometimes beyond tolerance .. 
whether its learning to appreciate the fact that your partner may not always think or behave in a way you like or are used to , or the fact that you might face sticky situations that you've never dealt with , all by yourself or as a couple .. or even the fact that you must learn to respect , deal with a new family , their traditions and their way of doing things ..

For most I know dealing with your partner's family tops the chart because while living day in and day out with your partner makes you oblivious / habitual to each other's as annoying as they can get mannerisms and idiosyncrasies , nothing quite prepares you for the "in-law' syndrome .. and nothing I write here WILL ,  
so .. 
let's just say no matter how good or bad the circumstances are or get  , a little patience and tolerance goes a long long way in paving the path to any and every successful relationship/ marriage .. but tolerance is only possible when you share an open, communicative and reciprocal relationship , where one has the freedom to voice one's opinion without the fear of being judged or where one has the assurance that the other is as inviting of criticism as of correction .. and the absence of either turns tolerance into indifference ..

Love is not easy , neither are relationships but if you remember things that matter most like communication , mutual respect , faith , unconditional love , the rest falls into place , all on its own .. 

In the words of Paul Sweeney,
'A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. 
The order varies for any given year. '

How true !! 
Infact ,  to be honest , of all the things , I find tolerance to be the most challenging aspect of any relationship .. and you , what do you think the most challenging aspect is ?

07 February 2012

Love Byte#6 - Love begins with YOU !

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Love begins with YOU ..
if only you can love yourself for who you are , rest assured you will find people who will love you for the same reason .. 
if only you can love yourself  for who you are not , rest assured you will love other people so much better.. 

P.S - This was supposed to go up y'day but .. life happened !

05 February 2012

Love Byte#5 - Love is a many stupid thing..

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Here's a cheeky illustration found on Pinterest titled  ' Valentine's day by the numbers ' by coolmaterial.com that captures the varied emotions in this season of love .. the silliness, the pain , the trauma , the excitement , the expenditure , the novelty , the commercialism , the thoughts ,  the results , the love , the alcohol , the sex , the regret and much more .. Love is indeed a many splendored  stupid thing ..

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I am curious , how do you celebrate Valentine's day - do you like the commercial way or the quiet , intimate way or do you not celebrate at all ..
I don't go all out on Valentine's day after all love isn't just about one day in the year ..still in the name of tradition I might give / receive roses and maybe give / definitely not receive a card ;) 

Speaking of flowers did you catch this Valentine's day - Teleflora Superbowl Commercial..

04 February 2012

Love Byte #4- Love is a drug !

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Somedays even with all the words I can gather , its impossible to define love ..
Somedays all I want to do is scream from the rooftops ..

“Love is too weak a word for what I feel — I luuurve you, you know, I loave you, I luff you, two F’s, yes I have to invent, of course I do, don’t you think I do?”
- from the movie Annie Hall 

03 February 2012

Love Byte #3 - Love is seriously funny !

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Its not funny you know , I tell him , but before I get to finish my sentence the man is already laughing his head off ..

For as long as we've known each other , its been the same story - I've always been the scapegoat for all his jokes ... and now its gotten to a point where I'm so used to it that my day feels incomplete ..but this very same quality , of being able to make me laugh , against my will , even when I am at my angriest self is something I absolutely love ..

Everyday life is fraught with a dozen different responsibilities , commitments , obligations and if anything makes life easier its laughter , because as efficient as we maybe,  every once in a while , things go wrong and when they do , a sense of humor is magic , instantly softening even the worst kind of blow...and not only that , a sense of humor also helps change the mood and introduce an altogether different perspective , a point of view you were too busy to look at ..  because call me dramatic if you like but I've this uncanny ability to make a bad situation seem worse , like it was the end of the world or equivalent and if it weren't for his exaggerations of how dismal my life always gets , I would always be in the doldrums !!

But most significantly of all ,  laughter adds that extra zing to a relationship that makes it refreshing and everyday a tad bit more enjoyable ...or maybe not ..
Maybe, the most significant benefit would be the fact that laughter saves me from not punching his lights out or strangling him in his sleep ;) 

02 February 2012

Love Byte #2 - Love is more chemistry than biology ;)

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This might seem more like a continuation of the first love byte, actually in essence it is , except this is the R-rated version but then as I was penning it , I realized how important this expression of love is between a husband and a wife .. and how relatively easy it is to submit to the everyday realities of our mundane routine as we go about living each day..

Even more insane is the veritable fact that among discussions , the one significant phase of married life that stands out for each married couple, the one they remember with utmost fondness is the courting / honeymoon period ..
but why , what happened , what's changed ? 

I know, you know that love still holds the two of you together and you're proud of the life and your family, the home you've built together but what about the passion , the amorous kisses , the loving caresses .. 

I am no stranger to what I write , I've been married five years (dated the same guy for a decade - phewwwww !!) but then I've always wanted the spine tingling , earth shattering , would walk through fire for you love , 
the kind of love they show in movies ..  
the kind of love that leaves you breathless ..
the kind of love that feels way different because the passion the protagonists emote seems unreal  ...

but its not because its your choice  .. 
because a simple expression like kissing everyday can bring you closer , refueling the passion and reaffirming the commitment you made to each other on your wedding day..

and every once in a while as much as you can , kiss passionately , kiss with total abandon , like your spouse was your lover not someone who you're married to or someone who's the parent of your child ..kiss like there's no tomorrow .. because ..
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"Unless its mad , passionate , extraordinary love its a waste of your time . There are way too many mediocre things in your life ..LOVE shouldn't be one of them . " 
- Dream for an Insomniac 

01 February 2012

Love Byte #1 - Love is an everyday expression ..

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"If you love someone,you say it,you say it right there,out loud.
Otherwise the moment just passes you by. "
- My Best Friend's Wedding
This movie always gets me in way that's inexplicable .. maybe because when I thought I'd found the one , I chose to express it right then , right there , out loud ..or maybe because what would/could have happened if I'd waited for an opportune time ..

All I know now is that in every relationship that you share , love needs to be expressed - simple knowledge of this fact is never enough nor should it be an excuse ..
It might mean taking out that little extra time or putting in that extra effort but with the countless ways one can 
express love , methinks sometimes its way easier than just saying it .. not that you shouldn't say it .. infact you should say it a lot , you should say it everyday if you can..because words are not a substitute for expression..

but little things like a compliment , a smile , a phone call , a thoughtful gift , a thank you note , a miss you card , spending time , taking a walk , sending flowers , doing a favor , having coffee , a hug , a kiss and so many more go a long long way ..

because , no matter how small or big the act , it reaffirms and rejuvenates your love ..
because , no matter how small or big the act , people never forget how you've made them feel .. and every one of us ,more than we'd like to acknowledge , absolutely love being made to feel 'special ' .

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So go on , make someone feel special today ..make someone feel LOVED !!
and then do it as often as you can ..

Much love !

P.S - Love Byte #1 recall Gambler's Choice and A question of Love 

31 January 2012

The tradition continues..

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Its that time of the year again when love is in the air and love is in every post ..

Yup , Love Bytes is back lovies .. woooooot wooooooooot :)

And as elated as I am right now , would you believe it if I said I was every bit uncertain about doing it this year ..infact I was mulling over it up until this morning .. and to be honest with the kind of schedule I have right now , I was ( still am ) doubtful if I can do love bytes for all 29 days but then I decided why not ? I mean I started the tradition , I made up the rules and I can always bend them right .. so I promise you your daily dose of love up until Valentine's day and then we'll take it one day at a time ..

So don't forget and be back .. the excitement starts tomorrow !

29 January 2012

Houston Chronicles - Tex in the City

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And then there are weekends like these , spent in the company of good friends and great food .. 
but that's precisely what you should be doing if you ever find yourself in Houston .. 

I remember the first time I visited here , this ad for a restaurant ( don't remember which one ) caught my fancy..it read  ' You got yourself to Houston , now get yourself to a great restaurant..' 
Up until then all I knew about this city was that it was in Texas and that it was the fourth largest city in the States , and then a day here and I knew I was in foodie paradise ..
and then a week here and I realised I was no gourmand , I was a glutton  !!!

This second visit is no different ..except there's even more food and gluttonous behaviour all round and the single redeeming , albeit slightly sadistic factor being that I'm not alone ;)
and also that my weight gain is your knowledge gain - a small price to pay , is it not ..

So here are my favorites so far ..

1. Indika - Unusual , creative and distinctly flavorful would be the best words to describe this award winning Indian restaurant which has been creating quite the wave for a little over a decade now .. and all the hype that surrounds it - totally deserving.. It's a little extravagant on your pocket if you consider that even the Sunday brunch is priced at $25 per person but then dining here is more than just about the food , its an experience , one that you're quite likely to remember for years !

2. Anvil Bar and Refuge - Creativity seems to be the buzz word here too , whether it be the decor , the drinks , the food .. but what took this bar to a whole different level for me was their use of local and house made ingredients ..I mean the cult favorite on the menu Pimms Cup was undoubtedly the most refreshing and original cocktail I've had in a long time.. The only downer was the service , a tad bit too slow ..

3. Bombay Pizza Co. - I drool even as write about this but Bombay pizza was an amazing find , and oddly even though it was pizza with an Indian twist that led me there ( I tried Mitul's masala and Bombay ranch ) but it was the Chicken kathi roll that was a slice of heaven and utterly delectable .. I mean the pizza was good , so were the desserts but the roll was my favorite ..

As much as I love food , I'm glad Houston happens once in a while cause there are way too many amazing places and way too little time - Thank GOD !
But still I'm curious and I'd love to know if you know a place I must try ? 
and whats your favorit'est' cuisine ?

Restaurant photos courtesy - Indika 29-95 , Anvil -My life in cocktails , Bombay Pizza - Bombay Pizza co.

21 January 2012

The Salt of Life ..

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Some of my favorite weekends with the husband are the ones we spend watching movies and this new Italian movie The Salt of Life by Gianni Di Gregorio looks every bit as charming and funny as the award winning Mid August Lunch of which this is , a follow up .. 
It has a limited release here in the US but I am really looking forward to watching it when it releases on March 9th here in LA ..

Are you looking forward to any particular movie ? and what's your favorite kind of weekend ?
Much Love and have a relaxing weekend !

17 January 2012

Then and now ..

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Been away for way too long ..so much so that I've almost forgotten how good it feels to write ..but I don't want to complain or apologize for my absence coz this holiday season has been way too amazing and not only that but as I go through my last years post I realise I've skipped months together .. but then 2011 has been a year like no other ... who would have thought that a road trip taken on the first day of the year would result in , quite literally and unbelievably , being on the road the whole year through .. but then some years are exceptional and 2011 was truly that and am immensely blessed and grateful for experiencing the magic I did ..
And on that note Happy 2012 to you .. 
hope you and yours have/are having the best year ever :)

I just celebrated a milestone birthday this week , starting a new decade is like starting a whole new chapter , right ? so my year is already looking good .. so far .. except of course on the blogging front :( which I promise to put more than the usual sincere effort into and write 2-3 times a week .. but thank you for thinking of me , checking on me and writing to me when I'm away - it's the only thing that keeps me coming back !

Much Love ..

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