My Boy'sterous Reflections

Hi! I'm Sheba [you can read my musings at Perpetual Bounce] and I am delighted to be writing a guest post for Priya. I recently started reading Priya's blog and am so glad I stumbled upon it because her posts are so uplifting that they can get me out of a funk or remind me of the little things that make me smile.

Eight years ago my life changed through the chance meeting of another soul; one that didn't seem separate from mine, but rather my missing piece, my perfect complement. It was like we knew each other in another life, another time, and were finally being reunited. I didn't know what it meant to truly be in love until I met E.

In the short time we've been together, we've had so many wonderful *ups*, but it is the storms that we've weathered together, side by side, that solidify for me that this really is my *perfect match*.

No matter what life throws me, if I have my E beside me, I know it's going to be alright.

{ Image courtesy : weheartit }

"Marriage is hard... Just two people slogging through the shit, year after year, getting older, changing.

It's a fucking marathon, okay? So, sometimes, you know, you're together for so long, that you just...

You stop seeing the other person.

You just see weird projections of your own junk.

Instead of talking to each other, you go off the rails and act grubby and make stupid choices...

A poignant scene from the movie “The Kids are all right "

A movie we watched a couple of days back, raison d’etre - Annette Bening won the Golden Globes.. and maybe just coz we love watching movies , anyhow ;)

True that movies are the great escape to life but also true that movies sometimes mirror / replicate life .. coz haven't you on more than one occasion found yourself identifying with the movie , the character or the situation ?

I know I have and this was one of those, because even after the movie ended, these powerful words stayed with me..

I know I have because I've been through this ...and its true not just for marriage but every relationship ..

When you've shared and bared a whole lot of yourself in any relationship, you begin to take the other person for granted and vice versa and sometimes that leads to things you know you shouldn't have done, words that were better left unsaid..

Love is about communication and while I've written about this before, I believe in it more than ever.. because it truly alters your relationship..

If you're able to speak your mind , your heart,if you're willing to talk things through with each other , if you’re willing to put in the effort , even if it’s hard to begin with .. believe you me , you'll emerge through even hell unscathed ..

because you've found something that has the magic to pull you through , to make your relationship work..

Let the fact that hubs has nothing to share with me , when he's back home after a day @ work coz ,well, all days @ work for men are just work , nothing extra-ordinary ..

Let this fact not blind you at all ,

coz when it comes to talking..real stuff..not even I can shut him up ;) :D

cc licensed flickr photo shared by jcoterhals


When Priya contacted me to do a guest blog post that defined what love is, I have to admit I was both elated and a little trepadacious.

After all, this was the first time I was being asked to do a guest post and on top of that, on a subject that had yet to be proven empirically.

I mean, no one's really been able to provide a concrete definition of what love is and I wasn't arrogant enough to think I'd be able to.

So how to write something worthy of Priya's inspirational and informative blog and not stray too much from my own writing style?

By providing you with guidelines of what love is, from a humorous perspective.

Okay, so you know how there's this kind of love where you live and breathe simply for the sake of your loved one?

How you're so in love with your spouse or significant other that you're willing to give up a kidney in a heartbeat?

How you'd be utterly incapable of going on with life if something were to happen to your lover?

This is NOT the kind of love I want to talk about.

Instead, I give you what I feel love is from my "funny" side of the street.

Love is telling your lover that he's sexy bald like Jason Statham from The Transporter, even though nothing could be further from the truth.

Love is not paying attention to how he makes noises when he chews, how he slurps his drink, or licks his fingers instead of using a napkin.

Love is making him believe he's stronger than you are even though you know you can back flip him in .2 seconds flat.

Love is pretending to be interested in his conversations about cars, dinosaurs, or King Tut's tomb.

Love is not laughing at him when he tucks his shirt in his pants and pulls them all the way up to his armpits like Sponge Bob, just because he's cold.

Love is grabbing a non-existing bicep and asking, "Honey, have you been working out?"

Love is not becoming irritated at how he drools every time he sees images of Angelina Jolie.

Love is not telling your lover that he has skunky breath even though you're certain his breath is bad enough to singe your hair off.

Love is smiling when he says, "I"ll take out the trash tomorrow," and there's five bags of it on your kitchen floor.

Love is pretending you didn't see him kick his dirty socks under the bed.

Love is laughing at his not so funny jokes when all you want to do is kick him under the table so he'll stop.

Love is recognizing that your life would be a little less funny if he weren't in it.

There you have it, ladies. My own twist on what love is.

Won't you add to the list? Just remember, make it funny!