My Boy'sterous Reflections: Friendship

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10 August 2011

Changing hearts ..

Sunday the 7th of Aug was Friendship day , which is when this post was supposed to be up but then sometimes in my case well begun is literally ' half ' done :P .. anyways here it is ..

My FB page is inundated with friendship day messages yet most of them seem perfunctory ..perhaps one of the reasons why I wish to refrain from posting any ' friendship ' messages today..

I still believe in the institution of friendship but I'd much rather celebrate and rejoice in the company of good friends all year round than wish each other this one day and forget they existed the remaining days..and as rhetorical as it sounds , its what I've come to believe in ..

blame it on all the exciting episodes I've had with people I thought were my friends or

blame it all on just growing up ..

either ways the meaning of ' friendship ' has changed ..

and every time I wrote a post about friendship that change was even more apparant whether it was about friends growing apart or about moving on or even about reuniting with a lost friend ..

And who knows it might change to mean something else in the future but for now I want to remember it as this ..

It might hurt to let go

sometimes a little , sometimes more ..

but let not despair in your heart grow

for every friend that turns a foe ,

there's always a good one in store

to rekindle the flames of friendship aglow..

Happy Friendship day to you and your best friends :)

# Friendship

18 May 2011

For you , Joanie =)

Pria 5:41 PM 6 Comments

I've been a bad , bad blogger but the sweetest thing happened to me like a week ago ..

well having a blogpost written especially for you qualifies as the sweetest thing , doesn't it ??

and moreover it also reminded me that friendships created over the course of writing a blog and sharing your life / experiences are very real and special .. and I'm lucky to have come to know some of these very wonderful people ..

and one of these is Joanie.. She's no stranger to my blog having guest posted earlier this year

sharing what 'Love' means to her and I tell you just with that one post she won so many hearts ..

I ain't a mommy yet but its almost like I can feel her love in her words for her children , for her family and I love that about her ..the most precious moment being - seeing her dream of having a lil girl after 3 boys come true ..

and you would agree if I said I just had to , had to be part of such awesomeness..

So here's what I did , I sent her a lil pressie for her princess ..and here she is wearing it ..

Its taken her almost a year to grow into it but its been worth the wait and those big beautiful eyes ..I'm in love ..

Thanks Jo for such a heartfelt post and the mini photo shoot, you made my day, my friend :))

<3 <3 <3 to you and your beautiful family ..

18 February 2011

Love Byte # 18 - Love Is A Maroon Tux - Guest Post by Brenda Susan at Walking Butterfly

Brenda Susan 8:00 AM 7 Comments

I am Walking Butterfly and I'm so happy to be invited to do one of the Love Bytes for Priya's wonderful February series! I have been enjoying all the great variety of posts about the huge subject of love! I mean how could we ever get to the end of such an amazing thing as love? Thank you sweet Priya, I love your blog and feel honored to be included in it.

So my story of LOVE?...........

Thirty-three years ago my husband, whom I will call Hubs, was doing some serious bargaining. He even had the scary nerve to give God an ultimatum!

I was twenty-two and engaged to a guy who was determined to remodel me into his idea of the perfect woman. (Clinton Kelly on What Not To Wear is the only one allowed to tell me how to dress these days!)

Hubs had returned to our hometown after graduating from college. On his first Sunday back, we crossed paths in the church we had both grown up in and I welcomed him home. We had each liked one another in high school but our likings had never happened at the same time.

What may have appeared to be a random moment of ordinary small talk between two old school friends, was actually two very different experiences.

For me, it was just a quick catch up with a sweet guy I used to have a crush on in high school.

For Hubs, it was anything but small talk. His heart was racing fast and his mind was struggling to catch up with his heart. He was asking himself if he was being delusional or if his imagination was running away with him. Because as I had walked toward him, he heard an unexpected thought cross his mind……

“You are going to marry her.”

Hubs knew I was engaged. So he did his best to chat with me about moving back to our hometown and finding a job. I told him that the shoe store I worked in had an opening and I would put in a good word for him.

Now it got really interesting! Hubs and I began to spend every day together in a tiny shoe store. Our friendship grew, but to me that is all it was, a great friendship. For him, it became more and more difficult to watch my unhealthy relationship with my fiancé day after day. He kept remembering those words he had heard and could not understand what in the world he was supposed to do about it!

In the meantime my mother was heartbroken over my destructive relationship also. She prayed for me constantly and had no idea how to help me.

Finally, there came a night when it all changed! Three separate events occurred to three separate people in three separate towns.

Hubs was in his little apartment thinking about what he had heard and he prayed a desperate prayer……

“God, I believe those words came from you, but I

can’t stand this anymore. If I don’t see a change tomorrow

I am never talking to you about her again!”

My mom was also praying about me that night. She begged God to help me get out of my unhealthy relationship and as she prayed she suddenly felt a peace about it and knew she could go to bed without worrying anymore.

I told you there were three events didn’t I? The third happening was mine. I was in a busload of young people I was chaperoning to a concert. As I rode along I opened a new letter from my fiancé. In the letter he was berating me and putting me down and for the very first time it really hit me wrong. I distinctly remember thinking…..

“I don’t deserve this treatment!”

Now, I had never thought that thought before because I believed that I did deserve his bad treatment. But my eyes were just suddenly and unexplainably opened! I broke off the engagement that night.

The next morning I went to work with one less piece of jewelry on my fingers. Can you imagine the racing heart and stuttering small talk Hubs had to endure that morning?

Hubs is not an idiot, he did not tell me any of this until long after we were engaged many months later. After my break-up he was a kind and gentle friend to me and taught me how I should be treated. I had no idea how wonderful it felt to be treasured and respected. He took his time, letting me heal and come to love him in a way that has lasted and grown for thirty-three years today. I am loved………..how else could you explain why a man would stand up in front of 400 people in a maroon tux with a pink shirt?

Brenda Susan

# Friendship # Love

26 January 2011

Magical Moments ..contd..

Pria 11:35 PM 11 Comments

The title was only apt because just when I thought my birthday was over ..here's what I receive in the mail from back home..

Thank you , you guys for sending so much love ..

My sis ,I love you for taking the time to make me a card ..Its precious despite the hints at healthy eating ;-) :-P

and mommy , I love you for choosing the kind of card that made me both smile and cry at the same time ..

and since we're talking about birthdays , I have to also thank my lovely friend and neighbor Teresa, coz look at what she did ..

Yes , she baked me a cake ..It was the most thoughtful gift ever and I just want to say again ..thank you T ..and did I tell you it was the yummiest ever ??

I have a feeling that this might just be my year , presumptuous as this may sound since the year has just begun but I have a good feeling, coz apart from all the loveliness I've received for my birthday ..I've also got this ...

Yup, I am the proud recipient of

from E @ Whining at the world

and

from FJ @ Theta Cube

and amidst all the hoopla of the award season, this sure seems like winning the Academy because its indeed an overwhelming feeling to be appreciated and acknowledged, so with all my heart, thank you ladies for thinking of me,keeping up with me and reading all that I write ..

I am blessed ..

and truly its life's lil blessings that are the most magical..

# Birthday Celebrations # Family

29 November 2010

Strings of Friendship

Pria 7:21 PM 10 Comments

You would agree if I said its easier to make a friend than to let go but then don't we all lose friends every once in a while ? We lose some to time , some to distance , some to differences ..whatever be the reason, the result is the same .. 'coz we may all choose to take different paths but no matter where we go , we always tend to take a little of each other with us, tucked in our heart , everywhere and perhaps in the all the different kinds of friends and friendships we share over the years with people , the best kinds are ones where you can just pick up right where you left off ... the years apart simply don't matter ..what matters is the simple fact that you were destined to be friends ..

and I know this because destiny with a little help from Facebook ;) brought her back in my life ..She was my best friend in school and not only was my best friend , she was the kind of person everyone liked to be friends with ..caring , loving , trustworthy , thoughtful , kind ..We always knew we were going to be friends for the long run , little did we know that life had other plans , a tumultuous phase in her life took us so far away from each other that all our attempts at staying in touch failed miserably ..

until now ..

Nothing describes the sheer happiness I feel, as succinctly as this poem by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

"I shot an arrow into the air,

It fell to earth, I knew not where;

For so swiftly it flew, the sight

Could not follow it in its flight.

I breathed a song into the air,

It fell to earth, I knew not where;

For, who has sight so keen and strong

That it can follow the flight of song?

Long, long afterward, in an oak

I found the arrow, still unbroke;

And the song, from beginning to end,

I found again in the heart of my friend."

Thank you for finding me but more so for always staying my friend !!

# Bestie # Friendship

24 September 2010

Strangers are just friends waiting to happen...

Pria 10:37 PM 11 Comments

Back in April this year , I had hosted a magnet swap and even though the swap wasn’t quite the raging success I’d hoped it would be , it wasn’t quite the disaster either ;) reason being I met a very special person Karina @ Peacelovecupcakeshappiness or Kary as I call her.. She was new to blogosphere and had just started her own blog.. Well, the swap led us to exchange mails and we became friends in no time.. Whoever would have thought that someone I had never met, I could end up sharing so much in common but it was real almost surreal..

Anyways while we were laughing on all the similarities we shared particularly the goofy ones, little did I know that she was also my partner in the Accessory swap that I participated in and I wouldn't be exaggerating if I told you she spoilt me , the absolute lovely accessories she sent me , the anklet , the earrings , the letter , the handbag and more .. I know all the goodness she sent my way deserved a blog post that I never got down to doing ..tsk tsk L but she literally made my day or days is more like it .. and therefore I must absolutely share this with you ..

Her lil partner in crime Miguelito recently turned 7 and here’s a little something special I sent him ..

but what made it even more special is this ..his sheer delight and joy as he unwraps each of his presents ..I had asked Kary to take some pictures so I could see for myself and she did a fabulous job coz it felt like I was right there watching him live .. and while you can check out all the photos here , on her blog , I’ll share a few favorites ..

I hope I’ve got you smiling too ..Have a great weekend J

# Friendship # Swaps

25 May 2010

All is well that ends well :D

Pria 11:45 PM 3 Comments

Most of Saturday this weekend was in bed for me ..it was one of those days when you wake up with a headache and nothing sucks more than falling sick on a weekend !!

But Sunday saw us heading to the movie theatre to watch one of the most ' ridonkulous ' and awaited movies ..

and it wasnt in the least bit a ' cat-astrophe ' ..If you've watched the movie you surely know what I mean and didn't you just love it ?I thought that it couldnt be a more happy ever after ending and goodbye than this ..but I do wish this wasnt the last chapter ..

And then came Monday ..when I received my accessory swaps package from the lovely Karina @Peace,love and cupcakes and my ..oh my did she send me some wonderful stuff ..Im going to dedicate a whole post to it ..so you'll have to wait for that but here's a little thank you note for Kary in the meanwhile :P

hahahahaha ..no sooner I saw this one I knew I had to share it :D :D ..

But this next one says it perfectly ..

all pictures via we ♥ it

So Thank you , my friend and I have something to give too coz I believe one good deed always begets another..

# Friendship # Happy Mail

18 May 2010

Ain't No Mountain High Enough ..

Pria 5:23 PM 4 Comments

"It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend." said William Blake ..

and its happened to everyone of us , at one point in time or another ..when we've fought with our best friends ..and dealt with the issue of to forgive or not to forgive ..

What troubles me most is the word ' friends ' here coz when i say friends , shouldnt it mean that fights should be easier to deal with and probably get over with quicker than when you fought / argued with a stranger ??

Atleast i thought so ..

Sadly , the reality differs..and the reality is that when a friend hurts you, your primal instinct is to shield and protect yourself and this instinct makes communicating difficult thereby making it harder to patch up problems and skewering the closest of friendships..

Whoever said friendship was not complicated was highly mistaken coz I think im finally beginning to comprehend the difference between friends and friendship ...Its the making friends part that is easy, Friendship is hard and keeping that connection strong and resilient during the natural ups and downs that affect almost all relationships can sometimes take more than you were willing to partake with , resulting more often than not in disappointment..

And while id like to believe im equipped and capable of handling disappointment , i sometimes am not ...but as quoted by Eileen Kennedy Moore in the book ' The Unwritten Rules of Friendship '

"Rigid beliefs make disappointments seem unbearable, whereas realistic beliefs help us to accept disappointment and go on from there."

and i have moved on ..

# Forgiveness # Friendship

08 March 2010

A Two Way Street

Pria 12:21 PM 6 Comments

An extremely dear friend sent me this card today and it brought a huge smile to my face .. I dint quite remember it was Women's day today , neither am i one of those women who need a day to celebrate or be celebrated but having said that , i also admit it was quite touching to have received it and here's a big THANK YOU to you, my buddy, for sending this.. You sure made my day .. like you manage to ..always .. :)

I guess thats what friendship is about..its about those million little things , its about great conversations when you're together and longer conversations when you're apart , its about complaining that life is busy yet finding the time to remember each other's special days and events , its about showing you care through your actions and most importantly its about reciprocating, about being a friend more than just having a friend .. so if you're lucky to have real friends or friend, treasure your friendship and let that special friend know you do through your actions and if you don't have a real friend , well you're better off and here's a lovely message for you ...i came across it on the net ..

So , give up that chase and get down to prioritizing who and what's important in your life coz someone said, 'The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live ..'

Are you opening the right doors and closing the wrong ones ?

# Friendship # Motivational

16 February 2010

Love byte # 16 - Lets get Silly

Pria 10:18 PM 4 Comments

Love is having a partner you can be goofy and silly with , having a friend you can be yourself with .. and I've had the best of both worlds this week .. I've had the most awesome'st weekend in a long time with my hubby and two good friends who've become great friends by the end of the trip ..

As I bid good bye to them today I cant believe how quickly the last few days flew by ..here I was all looking forward to their trip and here I am bidding adieu , but I'm not sad , I'm more than looking forward to some even more fun trips and meetings ...

This one's for you guys , Thank you for making our Valentine's day so special..

# Friendship # Love

My Boy'sterous Reflections

10 August 2011

Changing hearts ..

18 May 2011

For you , Joanie =)

18 February 2011

Love Byte # 18 - Love Is A Maroon Tux - Guest Post by Brenda Susan at Walking Butterfly

26 January 2011

Magical Moments ..contd..

29 November 2010

Strings of Friendship

24 September 2010

Strangers are just friends waiting to happen...

25 May 2010

All is well that ends well :D

18 May 2010

Ain't No Mountain High Enough ..

08 March 2010

A Two Way Street

16 February 2010

Love byte # 16 - Lets get Silly

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