My Boy'sterous Reflections

Once upon a time there was a happy and content couple ..

and they loved each other so much they decided to have a child .. 

Well either that Or they were crazy coz making the decision to having a baby and HAVING a baby is so completely disparate . It is monumental alright but you really don't know what you're getting into.. ha ! Those parenting books , new parent classes , baby sitting , taking care of your sibling's child or kids in the family is not even close to what you'll experience - believe me !! and yet therein lies the appeal , the element of surprise and the reason why once you've come out alive of that ordeal you're willing to put yourself through it all over again in a jiff :P 

On a serious note , I've always believed that the decision to want a child should always be yours and yours alone as a couple . Where I come from , there's tremendous pressure to bear kids once you're married for a reasonably acceptable time and the definition of that time may vary from a few days to months maybe if you're lucky -years ;) and its okay if it were just that , you can deal with parental pressure ( that's what parents are for !! ) but there's the scrutinizing eyes of the one dozen aunts and uncles , married cousins , family friends , your own friends turned parents , neighbors , well wishers and their immense concern for what you are and aren't doing in the bedroom .. GOSH ! it can become a bit too much .. and yes it gets to you and annoys you but don't let that be the rationale behind wanting a child . There's so much to take under advisement , there's obviously the financial aspect , then there's the physical ( Oh yes! a baby will make those bones hurt and weak overnight :D )  but most vital of them all is to be mentally prepared , to be a parent , to take care of another life and to be responsible round the clock 24*7 and just in case you skipped all the above and were careless , not that I'm judging but tsk tsk .. you have give or take 9 months to prepare yourself :P :P coz a wise man or woman once said , 

"Whether your pregnancy was meticulously planned , medically coaxed or happened by surprise , one thing is certain your life will never be the same. "

The title was only apt because just when I thought my birthday was over ..here's what I receive in the mail from back home..

Thank you , you guys for sending so much love ..

My sis ,I love you for taking the time to make me a card ..Its precious despite the hints at healthy eating ;-) :-P

and mommy , I love you for choosing the kind of card that made me both smile and cry at the same time ..

and since we're talking about birthdays , I have to also thank my lovely friend and neighbor Teresa, coz look at what she did ..

Yes , she baked me a cake ..It was the most thoughtful gift ever and I just want to say again ..thank you T ..and did I tell you it was the yummiest ever ??

Yup, I am the proud recipient of

from E @ Whining at the world

and

from FJ @ Theta Cube

and amidst all the hoopla of the award season, this sure seems like winning the Academy because its indeed an overwhelming feeling to be appreciated and acknowledged, so with all my heart, thank you ladies for thinking of me,keeping up with me and reading all that I write ..

for my adorable grandparents who celebrated their 59th wedding anniversary y'day ..

I am so happy we got to spend some amazing time together ..Thank you for all the thoughtful things that you've done and all that you continue to still do ..

Love you guys and hope we'll make it to your milestone someday..

for being in Chicago aka Windy City or more apt for now Snowy Windy City ..

I wanted to travel someplace new for our 4th anniversary this year and here I am ..

Thank you my darling hubs for always always making my every wish come true ..

Feeling terribly happy and blessed !!!

Some mother-in-laws are possessive,

Their child they still want to own.

My mother-in-law’s love is like sunlight,

On both of us it shone.

Some mother-in-laws put you down,

They think you’re not good enough.

My mother-in-law shows approval,

Affection, and other good stuff.

Some mother-in-laws interfere,

They think that they know best.

My mother-in-law lets us be,

She’s better than the rest.

And so I just want to thank you,

For being who you are,

You’ve made everything so easy,

As a mother-in-law, you’re a star!